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Preparing for Your Future Spouse

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The chapter provides guidance for those contemplating the very important decision of anticipating- and pursuing- the decision of preparing for one’s future spouse. The author provides principles that young adults can apply to each stage of the preparation process, including building the right personal foundation for making this event possible, how to believe for the right person, and what actions to take once one thinks he or she might have met that person.

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  1. Witherspoon Institute, Princeton, NJ, USA

    Prof. William Jeynes

  2. California State University, 6572 Red Coach Drive Huntington Beach, 92647, Long Beach, CA, USA

    Prof. William Jeynes

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  1. California State University, Long Beach, Long Beach, California, USA

    William Jeynes

  2. Department of Education, Point Loma Nazarene University, San Diego, California, USA

    Enedina Martinez

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Jeynes, W. (2015). Preparing for Your Future Spouse. In: Jeynes, W., Martinez, E. (eds) Ministering Spiritually to Families. Springer, Cham. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-319-13302-7_5

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